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Blue Star Lacrosse was founded by a small and mighty core of coaches, athletes, and administrators

As educators and coaches, we found that there were several key elements lacking in almost all club sports programs. We have designed Blue Star Lacrosse to fill those gaps. At Blue Star, we pride ourselves on clear communication, commitment to individual growth, responsible and proper off-season training, high coach-to-player ratios, superior coaching, and decades of experience in the lacrosse recruiting landscape.

We knew we could do it better. Our approach is simple. Our focus is specific. The training we offer is broad. Our community is strong. We encourage you to join us. 

Blue Star athletes have different abilities and different goals, but they all have one thing in common; they work hard and commit to driving themselves to improve.

- We teach youth and beginners how to play the game so that they can be successful members of their township, school, and summer all-star teams.

- We offer camps, clinics, and off season training to players from all townships & teams to strengthen the quality of local competition.

- We teach college bound and all-star level players what it is going to take to be quality recruits, strong students, and successful athletes.

- We help parents and families understand the development and recruitment process.

- We offer year round individual and group training, box lacrosse, recruitment guidance, and are always educating ourselves about the future of the sport, the advancements in training, and the new technology that supports and drives it.

- We hope to pass on the passion we have for a healthy, active lifestyle to the next generation of athletes.

- Lastly, we teach all young men we have the privilege to work with, about the importance of taking the gifts they have been given and giving back to their own communities.

MV Whitlow

Founder of Blue Star Lacrosse

Coach Whitlow with his twins Whit and Hazel

Born and raised in Portsmouth, VA, son of The Honorable and Mrs. Morton V. Whitlow, Coach Whitlow brings over 30 years of coaching experience as the Director of Blue Star Lacrosse. His teams have won a total of 16 State championships as a coach and a player over the years.

Whitlow was a standout athlete in football, basketball, and lacrosse during his time in high school. His affinity for lacrosse was cultivated at Norfolk Academy, under legendary lacrosse Hall of Fame coach and player Tom Duquette. Whitlow later attended and graduated in 1988 from St. George’s School in Newport, RI, where he had the honor to play for respected educator and coach Archibald Montgomery.

Coach Whitlow attended and played at the University of Delaware, under Head Coach Bob Shillinglaw. Whitlow was a two-time All-Conference selection, Conference Defenseman of the Year 1992, and team captain while playing for the Fighting Blue Hens. He graduated in 1992 with a major in Political Science and minors in English and Philosophy.

Coach Whitlow was a member of the 1995 Philadelphia Wings National Lacrosse League World Championship team, as well as a member of the Philadelphia Lacrosse Club, Eagles Eye Lacrosse Club, Mt. Washington Tavern Lacrosse Team, Capital Lacrosse Club, and MAB Lacrosse Club.

Coach Whitlow lives in Princeton, NJ with his two children, 9-year-old twins Whit and Hazel.

Coaching Career:

  • 15 State Championships
  • Hundreds of Players placed in D1, D2, D3 Programs
  • Westfield HS Associate Coach/Defensive Coordinator
  • The Hun School of Princeton, ’13-'19
  • The Lawrenceville School, ’04-’12
  • New Jersey Pride, Major League Lacrosse, ’01-’02
  • St. Joseph’s Regional, Montvale, NJ. ’00-’03
  • Cape Henry Collegiate, ’98, ’99
  • Hampden Sydney College, ’97
  • The Peddie School, Football, Basketball, Lacrosse ’92-’96

Don Green

Director of All-Stars

Coach Green with his Wife and two daughters Yardley and Coco and Son Walker

Don is the current Head Varsity Coach of Shawnee

Growing up in Westchester County, New York, Coach Don Green had the opportunity to learn from and watch some of best lacrosse minds in the game. As a youth, Don developed his love for lacrosse by attending games with his father, the real Coach Green. Regularly attending Yorktown High School games he had the opportunity to see greats like Dom Finn, Dave Marr, Rob Kavovit, Paul and Brian Carcaterra plus the epic showdowns between Roy Colsey and Ric Beardsley.

Over the span of his youth and high school playing career, Coach Green had the opportunity to play in the Yorktown youth program and study the game under some of most knowledgeable coaches in lacrosse including Vin Savastano, Ted Georgelas, Frank Vitolo, Bob Turco and MV Whitlow. These influences helped him become a four-year starter in goal at Hendrick Hudson High School before playing lacrosse at tradition-rich Nazareth College.

At Nazareth, Coach Green received all-conference honors while being a part of two Empire 8 Championship teams and an NCAA semifinalist team. He also had the opportunity to be a part of the 2004 National Championship. Coach Green left Nazareth with a degree in business with concentrations in marketing and sports management.

Following college, Coach Green served as the Director of Operations for the New Jersey Pride of Major League Lacrosse. Taking steps closer to his passion for teaching and helping young students and athletes, Don earned his Masters in Counseling from The College of New Jersey.  

This afforded him opportunities to work in admissions at The Hun School of Princeton and as a school/college counselor at Robbinsville High School in Central New Jersey. All the while, Coach Green has coached and organized major club lacrosse programs. The unique combination of experiences in college/school counseling and all aspects of lacrosse has allowed Don to develop a holistic approach to the recruiting process. His focus is to find the best fit for all players and families based on academics, social fit, major choices and lacrosse.

Coach Green lives in Lawrenceville with his wife, two daughters Yardley (7),  and Cortland (4) and his son Walker (1 1/2).

Coaching Career:

  • 2019-Present Head Coach, Shawnee HS
  • 2012-14 Head Coach, Robbinsville HS
  • 2011 Head Coach, The Hun School of Princeton
  • 2009-10 Head Coach, Montgomery HS
  • 2008-09 Assistant Coach, Montgomery HS
  • 2007 Freshmen Coach, Moorestown HS

Murf Butler


Murf grew up in Pennington, NJ and attended Hopewell Valley Central High School; where he was a 3 year starter on Defense. During his 3 years as a starter, the team went 45-17, with a Mercer County Tournament Championship, and an appearance in the state semi-finals. He was twice first team All-Conference, All-County and All-Area. During his senior year he was named a Captain, as well as a US Lacrosse All-American; additionally he received the Number 17 Award, in memory of Chris Sanderson.

He met Coach Green and Coach Whitlow as a freshman in high school and spent the next 4 years playing for them, and learning everything he could from them. 

After high school, Murf moved South to Oxford, MS; where he attended the University of Mississippi. During his time in Oxford, he played in the MCLA, and was a two-time captain, before graduating with a degree in Marketing and Corporate Relations.


Full Time Admin

A highly decorated college field hockey player, Meg graduated from Montclair State University Class of 2017. During her college career, she was named to the ALL-NJAC team for three years, the South Atlantic Region team for two years, and an All-American during her junior season. Meg was selected to the NCAA Senior All-Star Game following her last season with the Redhawks. Meg was a two-year captain at MSU and led her team to three NCAA tournament appearances. Off the field, Meg earned several honors in the classroom including the NFHCA Academic Award, the NFHCA Scholar of Distinction, and the CoSIDA Academic All-District team. She graduated from Montclair State University Summa Cum Laude in 2017 with a bachelor’s in psychology. During her Master's year, Meg worked as the admin for Blue Star Lacrosse. In 2018, Meg graduated with her Master’s in Teaching Special Education. She worked as a special education teacher at Montgomery High School from 2018 - February of 2023

Meg returned as our full-time admin in February of 2023.  She is your main contact for all things registration & logistics.  She is also an integral part of Blue Star Field Hockey. She is the Head Coach of the U14 squad and the director of BSFH camps. Meg is currently the  Varsity Head Field Hockey Coach at West Windsor North High School. 

Eric Destefano

Associate Director of Navy All-Stars

Coach Eric joined Blue Star in early 2018, upon his return from coaching and playing lacrosse in Australia. He is primarily focused on coaching and expanding the game of lacrosse in southern New Jersey. In addition to coaching for Blue Star, he partners with local lacrosse programs providing elite private training for players and consulting for coaching staffs. Eric has been coaching teams and private lessons since 2011.

While down under, he led his team to their first Championship appearance in more than 90 years. In addition to playing, Eric also was the head coach of the Camberwell Club's U13 boys team. Before Australia, Eric studied Finance and played lacrosse at Salisbury University, winning two national championships under the tutelage of the NCAA's winningest coach, Jim Berkman. During his summers, Eric coached youth club teams here in New Jersey.  Prior to college, Eric attended Moorestown High School, where he won a state championship and was named team captain in his senior season.

In addition to lacrosse Eric loves playing golf, traveling, and spending time at the beach.  Eric works in the commercial real estate industry with Newmark, based in Philadelphia. He currently resides in Mount Laurel, NJ.

Dan Lamela

Director of Camps

Dan Lamela joins Blue Star Lacrosse as the Associate Director of Camps. Hailing from Brick New Jersey, Dan Lamela and his brothers are heavily involved in New Jersey lacrosse. Dan will oversee all aspects of the camps at Blue Star Lacrosse to ensure that all players leave with a positive, educational experience in a safe environment!

An alumnus of Brick Memorial High School, Dan's jersey is retired for his contributions to the program’s forming years. He played his college lacrosse at Stockton College where he was a four-year starter and earned all-conference and all-academic honors. The proudest moment of his lacrosse career came when he matched as a bone marrow donor for a recipient with leukemia through the HEADStrong Foundation’s donor match system.

Currently, Dan is an AP Chemistry Teacher at Point Pleasant High School and was previously the assistant Coach of Howell High School Varsity Lacrosse. He resides in Bradley Beach, NJ.

Steven Sanczyk

Associate Director of All-Stars

Coach Sanczyk currently resides in his hometown of Kinnelon, New Jersey. He graduated from Seton Hall Prep in West Orange, NJ, where he was a three year starter on defense and captain during his senior year. He lead the Pirates to multiple state tournament bids including winning the Essex County tournament in 2013 and 2014.  His honors include All Conference, County and State selection. He also received the SHP Coaches award.

Steve was coached and mentored by both MV Whitlow and Don Green. He has been coaching under their guidances for eight years now.

He continued his academic and athletic career at Lehigh University, under Hall of Fame coach Kevin Cassese. Steve earned his varsity letter during his Freshman season but after sustaining an injury, he shifted his focus to academics. He completed his undergraduate degree in Economics in three years. In his fourth year, he received a Master’s degree in Management, also from Lehigh University. While completing his undergraduate degree at Lehigh, he became a certified lacrosse official. Steve currently resides in his hometown of Kinnelon, NJ.